And in one case a friend says if she hadn't married her husband after a year there's absolutely no way they'd be together now!
I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing?! Maybe good in that they had to work through their problems and now are out the other side. But perhaps bad if they felt they had to stick it out when it wasn't right?!
My fiancée upset me last weekend beyond belief. He really let me down. And I was shocked, disappointed and embarrassed. Let me clarify this isn't a cheating or beating issue! But let me down on something that was very important to me.
It left me questioning so many things! Should I commit to someone who has the ability to make me feel this rubbish? Someone than can let me down that badly with no regard for how important this was to me? Can I commit to someone who is unsupportive and unreliable?! It just made me question everything.
As I was crying to a friend of a friend she said far be it from her to tell me to stay with someone I didn't think was right! But she said (and I quote) "all men are pricks" she proceeded to tell me that of everyone she knew, the men in the relationships misbehaved one way or another! And the women....well just seemed to gloss over it!
She discussed a mutual friend who is planning a wedding and appears to have the picture perfect life and the fact that at times her fiancée goes out on a Saturday lunchtime and doesn't return until early hours Monday morning. You would never guess this goes on! I guess she chooses to not talk about it. I assume she discusses it with him?! But maybe she doesn't!
So does this girl accept the behaviour because she loves him for better or worse?! Or....because she loves him so much she doesn't want to see fault? Or wants to get married so much she ignores it?
But what can that lead to? Anger hitting later on? Resentment? Once the wedding excitement is over disappointment when things don't change?! Who knows!
I am not one to keep quiet! And am unable to pretend things haven't happened if it's upset me!
I accept people have faults. But what are faults and what are just pure selfish actions?
When I get married I want to be 110% sure. No ifs or buts and no possible way outs! And no fake life! I don't want to be the smiling stepford wife who cries herself to sleep over the wrong choices she made!
